One of the most powerful leadership lessons I’ve ever come across didn’t come from a business book or a management course.

It came from the Qur’an. When Allah (The Most High) sent Musa عليه السلام to confront the tyrannical Pharaoh — a man who enslaved, tortured, and killed — Allah gave him this instruction:

"Go, both of you, to Pharaoh. Indeed, he has transgressed. But speak to him gently, that perhaps he may take heed or fear [Allah]." (Qur'an, 20:43-44)

Pause and let that sink in. Allah didn’t just send Musa with miracles and strength.

He sent him with gentleness — even to Pharaoh.

Pharaoh wasn’t just any enemy.

He was the worst of the worst. Arrogant. Oppressive. A man who claimed to be ِAllah.

Yet the divine instruction was to approach him with rahmah (mercy), adab (etiquette), and hikmah (wisdom). 

That’s a masterclass in emotional intelligence. In leadership. In da’wah. In communication. In humanity.

Too often, we speak harshly to those who simply disagree with us.

We cut people off.

Cancel them.

Dismiss them.

So if Musa (عليه السلام) was told to speak kindly to Pharaoh, who are we to do otherwise with our colleagues, team members, or community?

Next time you're faced with someone who pushes your buttons, remember this verse.

Lead with gentleness.

Speak with purpose. Represent your values, not your anger.

Gentleness isn’t weakness. It’s prophetic strength.